At some point I realized that I misunderstood the difference between being “in love with” and “loving” someone. I had always thought, and been taught, that the difference is one that lies in the presence or absence of romantic intentions. However, I have come to learn that the difference is situated on whether you are engaged in a mutual act. The operative word is here is with. Loving someone is only dependent on your actions, feelings and practice. However, being in love with, someone requires a mutual investment, practice, understanding and system of valuation. With, makes this love-thing a two-way street, a birthing requiring the essence of both, consciously, freely, for a time. Far too many of us are “in love with” a shell of a person, that has no interest in the two-step.